I am reading a book, The Help, by Kathryn Stockett (I can’t even tell you the last time I read fiction for myself. What a treat!). I haven’t even finished it yet, but I’m very much enjoying the book. It’s an interesting weave of fiction with history fact – historical fiction
Today, as I was reading, I was stunned by a phrase. Brought out of the trance of the story. The phrase was “What if I told her everyday that she be special.” I’ve decided that the phrase needs to be written on the wall. A sign that will remind me to compliment my kids –focus on the reinforcement of positive praise – “Tell her she’s great each day” at least in some way.
I always compliment my children “you’re so smart,” “you’re so cute,” “you’re so funny,” and “you’re so beautiful.” But I don’t think that I make an effort to tell them each and every day. In the book, the child, who is being raised by The Help, a maid in the 1960s in the South, is not paid much attention to by her parents. In fact, her mother often looks upon the child as a nuisance. The maid is saddened by this and decides to compliment her daily, telling her that she is a “good girl” and that she “be a smart girl.” The maid decides that giving the child daily positive compliments will help outweigh the negative.
I am taken aback by this. It is true and now, I have decided that I need to be more conscious of this. We all know that positive remarks can make a world of difference. I don’t believe you can spoil a child with compliments.
Therefore, I have made a conscious decision to praise my children each day. I think that I do most of the time anyway, but there is nothing wrong with ensuring that I’m doing it each and every day.
How do you praise your children each day?